From one quiet black girl to another: You’re not alone

Perspective Shifts
Written By Author | Aneisha - Writer and Bookkeeper

Originally published on Medium

When I see another quiet black girl, I’m surprised at first. Usually, I’m the only one in a room. After that, I think:

Welcome!
I’m just like you!

(Well not exactly like you, of course. But similar.)

Was your upbringing like mine?
Loud aunties connected by blood or culture talking over your low voice then commenting on how much you didn’t say?

And what’s wrong with quiet anyway!?

Is your personality like mine?
So many thoughts in your head sometimes
you miss the outside activity and don’t react
and people misjudge your silence for defiance?

Are you a chameleon too?
The only one brown person or one of a few?
Your silence makes you blend in easier somehow
But they still want more
More noise
As if quiet and capable are mutually exclusive.

Hey, quiet black girl.
I don’t have to hear you to see you.

Author | Aneisha - Writer and Bookkeeper

Aneisha Velazquez is a bookkeeper and clarity guide who helps neurodivergent-led businesses stop fighting their numbers and start trusting themselves.

Having experienced firsthand the pressures different-brained entrepreneurs face in systems not built for them, she brings compassion to money conversations and normalizes the mess — making finances feel less overwhelming and far more manageable.

She’s the founder of Yellow Sky Business Services and writes the newsletter The Peaceful Pocket, where she explores making business more neurodivergent-friendly, money tips with context, and stories and behind-the-scenes as an AuDHD founder.

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