I’m so grateful for this frizz: Why I always wanted frizzy hair

Originally published on Medium

I always wanted my hair to be able to frizz.

I often studied the hair labeled “good” by my mom and aunties for clues on how to improve my own hair. And I noticed that hair got frizzy on rainy days or when it wasn’t brushed. It formed cute baby hairs around the temples. It waved and fluttered in the breeze.

That was different from my hair. My hair lay flat on my head, limp, dull. Baby hairs were brushed into harsh lines around my temples. Not one strand moved in even the strongest breeze.

And there wasn’t any frizz. It was like doll hair.

I hated it.

I didn’t want doll hair. I wanted alive hair.

And based on this research, alive hair has frizz.

So I experimented with ways to achieve frizz.

Guess what? Rainy days plus lightly relaxed hair equals a cute frizz halo. How to achieve this look?

1. Wear your hair loose

2. Walk out into a light misting rain

3. Optional Skip around

4. Enjoy your frizz halo!

I chased that frizzy hair, that alive and real and moving hair. I chased it all the way to going natural.

The day my top bun had major frizz without me trying? I took a selfie.

The day a breeze blew my loose hair out of its carefully styled shape? I took a video.

My hair moved. It frizzed.

My hair was alive.